Behavior change is not merely a matter of knowledge or skill. If that were true, then all the information campaigns on how to improve your health would have made behavior-related illnesses a thing of the past. And birth control information would prevent teen pregnancies. Sadly, many people fail to create lasting changes in their behaviors and will repeat their failures over and over again…
Have you ever tried to break a habit? The key to creating and maintaining behavior change is Continue reading “What Does It Take to Break A Habit?” »
Valentine’s Day was established by papal decree in 496AD as a day to celebrate our relationships with those we love most deeply. At that time it wasn’t connected with romantic love. In the high Middle Ages, during the time of development of courtly love as a tradition, Geoffrey Chaucer changed that. Since that time we see Valentine’s Day as a sort of one-day shorthand for what an intimate partner or marriage relationship should look like. Starry-eyed, blissful, sweet, easy, sexual, and everloving might describe what our expectation of intimate relationships are. But like most things in life, when we truly take a look, we see much more complexity than that… Continue reading “How Are You Helping to Make or Break Your Intimate Relationships?” »
It’s funny how we can be next to someone, but not be with them. It makes me sad to see couples in restaurants sharing a meal in silence, not even sharing eye contact. And I’m sure you have experienced having your attention wander when interacting with someone or trying to focus on something. We suddenly realize we aren’t focused and bring ourselves back to the moment – or not. We also notice immediately when someone else isn’t really present with us. They’re in their heads thinking about something else, looking at their cell phone, or at something other than us. And sometimes we find it hard to come back to the present moment and let go of what had dragged our attention away from the moment. http://light-bringer-world.com/wp-admin/tools.php?page=spamstopper
How are you voting with your energy? What do you want in your life? What are your highest values? Is having the right people around you important to you? How often do you do what it takes so you cultivate having the right people around you? Is connection a high value of yours? How often do you choose to connect with others? Continue reading “Gentlemen, Is It Worth Your Energy?” »
With each cent you spend, you’re voting. Spending money is as much a political act as, or even more so than, casting your vote on an election day. Every time you purchase a product or service, you’re helping an individual or a corporation to stay in business. Your vote says that you want the product or service to exist in the world. What implications does this have on your choice of selecting providers of adult services? Continue reading “Money Money Money… Isn’t Funny… in Some Men’s Worlds…” »
Why do some men wonder why their companions, whom they pay large sums of money to give them the times of their lives, don’t deliver? I invite you, especially if you are one of these types, to discover the simple answers by continuing to read this entry. Continue reading “What Goes Around Comes Around!” »
So how do you get integrated, at one with yourself, or all of a piece, your body and mind in agreement = congruent? Here’re some handy tips: Continue reading “Male, Middle-aged, Intimately Frustrated? Purify Your [Perverse] Mind” »