Passive in intimacy when you pay for it? And why do passive men wonder why women whom they pay don't deliver quality intimacy either?

Being passive in intimacy breeds passivity

Like increases like.  Bad increases bad.  Good increases good. Most men always want their intimate partners to enjoy intimacy with them. A woman is a woman whether one pays her for sex or not. Seeing a woman enjoy intimacy gives men satisfaction and a sense of achievement. Men like to be and feel useful especially so in sex! On the other hand there will always be men who prefer to lie there and take what paid women give.  Men with this attitude think that they pay to be served.  Some men say "you're a woman, so seduce me". But how do they expect to be given the quality that they crave if they're not prepared to give the same?

We all strongly perceive nonverbal communication. If you say good words but the body shows the opposite, another person will always take the message of the body. You do too.  So how does your communication contribute to the quality of intimacy? Especially if you are passive in intimacy? If men think that their paid partners should entertain them, what energy does that exude?  How does that affect the response of the women? How would you feel and respond if another person gave you that attitude?

You would intuitively feel it.

You feel if someone tells you nonsense just like you feel if someone tells you sense. Every time we communicate we release subtle energy.  So be careful about what energy you radiate, because you'll get it back.  Examples of this are: if you talk to someone, you know if the conversation is landing well. And you also know when you have an inflexible communicator!  How do you know?

Intuitively - from the responses in your partner's words and body.  So if you stay passive in intimacy, this energy will be in the air. Your partner will get the message and most likely be put off and act that way or similarly.

Being passive in intimacy therefore works both ways

The principle is simple, yet there are many [generally unhappy] men who don't see it.  They are unhappy because they get this passive attitude from others.  But these men do not realize that they are its source - until someone tells them!  Taking is nice, giving is nicer.  If we take all the time, we will have heaps of stuff, yet emptiness in the heart because the stuff will lose value. We'll start searching for the next taking...  But we'll never run away from the emptiness in the heart.  The only way to break the circle and get fulfilment is by giving some of ourselves to others.

If you give, your intimate partner will give more

Because if you do something nice, you will release more good energy.  A virtuous circle will begin - others will start accepting and giving good too. Verbal and nonverbal [even intimate] communication will start flowing. Happiness will come into your body and heart.  You will never have dull encounters again! You'll exude more attractive energy which will attract similar partners. So start giving - and you'll start receiving!  And if you're feeling shaky, take my hand...